Dallin is my helper. This last week I couldn't barely move with my herniated disk. He has learned to change diapers and do laundry. He is my go-for or go-get or CHECK-CLAIRES-MOUTH-RIGHT-AWAY!
I am so grateful for all the help that my family and I have received this past 8 days. Food, child care, some cleaning, more food. I don't even know if any homework was completed last week. I am grateful for understanding teachers. Paul played the sole role of single parent and provider last week. I am so grateful to everyone who stepped in to help us out.
I went to the chiropractor 4 times last week and I will go 3 times this week. For the next 5 months or so I will go multiple times a week. I iced my back every waking hour for 15 minutes on bare skin. I was cold all week. I have a set of exercises that I have to do 3 times a day at home that take about 15 minutes to complete. The good news is that after just a week, I can walk and go to the bathroom by myself and get out of bed. My mobility has improved greatly and the pain is now very minimal when I am careful and cautious.
I have a herniated disk below my L5 vertebrae, as well as multiple spots of stress up my whole back. I have some degeneration in a couple spots as well as a slightly crooked section in my upper back (this last one can't be fixed). So basically, I have a lot going on.
Today is my first day without help for the busy shove-everything-in-her-mouth-way-too-mobile-calm-independent baby and crazy-needy-determined-solid toddler. It sucks. And I am tired and sore. Ellie woke up with a scratchy throat so I let her stay home today. I didn't even bother determining if she was really sick or not (I think she's just fine to be perfectly honest). Dallin was quite jealous. She's been fetching things for me but mostly laying on the couch. I am being really honest right now and I don't even have pain meds in me any longer.
Today sucks because I just want emotional support that is physically right next to me. Translation: I want to stay in bed and take naps while Paul sits next to me and strokes my hair and feeds me grapes.
I look around and my house is a mess and my hair is sticking straight up and needs to be washed. My kids had cookies for breakfast and my laundry is quickly getting behind. When this happens, I slowly get depressed and my home gets toxic. Physically and mentally.
Before this all happened, I was so close to my happy place. My house was spotless, dishes were done, laundry done, post partum depression was gone, children and husband were fed and happy. I was taking many opportunities to serve others outside of my home. I was about to start boot camp again (at least I was thinking about it). But I was doing it all. Literally all of it. And I really enjoyed it. I loved the results I was getting from working hard to have a clean home.
I was doing it all, though. I wasn't having my kids help because I wasn't leaving anything for them to do. I was so caught up in getting it all done (and enjoying getting it done) that I am sure 30 years from now, my kids would still be living with me and Isaac would still be in diapers. And, the kicker, it's probably cause all the stress in my back (along with over compensating to protect my knees that I injured several months ago that have since been physical therapied and fixed).
Speaking of diapers, I have to have a toddler climb up onto the kitchen counter so I can change said nasty diaper. Yep. That's how I have to get that job done. Any one want to eat dinner over hear tonight? I didn't think so.
May we find laughter in all things.
One more random: I should rename this blog "Run On Thoughts, Or Lack Thereof"
I like it.